This week has been a week of firsts, and as with firsts, sometimes, there are some bumps along the way. And yes, with doing something new, comes a little bit of fear about how it will all turn out. For this Wednesday’s show, I asked Haley McCarthy, a voice actor, to share her thoughts about the fears she experiences and how she handles them when she prepares for auditions.
FEAR is universal, and fear of rejection and fear of performance are not only experienced by voice actors. Moms, teachers, business people, speakers and athletes, well, all of us experience the same kinds of doubts and emotions that cause fear to overtake us at times.
Fear starts as doubt, and as doubt magnifies, it can feel so huge that it becomes like a big neon brick wall that looms ahead of us, as we move at a high rate of speed, and to avoid the crash, we definitely need to slam on the brakes, and get outta there – FAST! But…
Could Fear Mean Something Else?
I’ve never had a guest on my pop up live show, before, nor have I had such an elaborate set up. Usually, it’s me and a white board and it is live. In this, my first interview, Haley shared her experiences as we talked about fear and faith.
KEY LESSON: When I watched the finished interview, I realized that if I had treated the project as if it would be live, I would have approached the interview differently. I would have been better prepared, I would have been more succinct in my speech. The “ums” would have been non-existent and I would have made the points clearer. However, there are key moments in the interview that hits the idea that faith is the best choice home. Take the time to check it out, as it is only a little over 10 minutes long, but is packed with a lot of actionable wisdom.
I, also, learned that I don’t give my best when I know that I can edit it out or “we can re-shoot that section again.” What would have happened if I approached this with the mindset that there would be no do-overs? How would my results have changed?
What would happen if we all approached life as if there were no do overs?
This new rule I have about public growth can be very uncomfortable for me at times. In this case, I definitely wanted to go in my room, get WAY better at interviewing, and then re-shoot this video. But committing to public evolution has the added benefit of my readers seeing, firsthand, what growth looks like, and through practice, and through keeping one’s eyes focused on the outcome or result, we get better.
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What if the thing we fear isn’t the big, scary brick wall that we think it is, and that must be avoided at all costs?
What if fear was a finish line instead? A completion point of who you were before you did the thing that made you step into someone better, and stronger than you could have ever imagined?
And the feelings of fear? The sweaty palms, the thick tongue, and the blank space in your brain are all indicators that your body and mind are ready to wipe the slate clean for your new beginning.
So in order for you to get to and through the finish line of fear, you may need some faith to help give you the fortitude you need to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Here are my top five ways to get a little more faith in your life, so you could have a little more courage to go after the people, places and things that matter most to you.
FIVE TIPS TO HAVE MORE FAITH
- SURROUND YOURSELF – with people who are friends to your excitement and who support you and what you are trying to accomplish.
- DON’T LISTEN TO THE OPINIONS – of people who are not in your profession, who do not have your best interests at heart, and who like to talk about things in which they have no direct experience.
- TRUST THAT LIFE HAPPENS FOR YOU AND NOT TO YOU – You are here for a reason and you were not created to be small, fearful, and silent. You have a unique voice that is meant to be heard. You are made of the stuff of stars and your birth was no accident.
- BUILD YOUR SKILL – Practice your craft. Get better at what you want to do. The more progress you make, the more confident you feel and the more faith you have in yourself.
- PRACTICE – The more you practice stepping out of your comfort zone, the more comfortable you become with the unknown, and the more you create the mindset of belief in yourself and your abilities to figure it out.
These two rules: to have more faith, and to view fear as a reminder of what to do change everything. Employ them and watch how your life becomes richer and more full of light, love, and amazing experiences.
That’s all I have for today. Please feel free to leave a comment, and share your stories and your tips for making yourself feel more faith and less fear below.
Thanks so much for reading and I hope you enjoy the show.
Until next time,
Remember, you are so much more than who you believe yourself to be!
You can find Haley McCarthy at https://www.twitter.com/haleymccvo